Straight Lili No Chaser

Dear Past Me, 2017 was a pretty tough year for you.  And by pretty tough I mean the worst year yet.  Had you had the chance to get a glimpse of what was ahead, who knows what you would have done. But you freaking made it! Through every heartbreak, disappointment, let-down... you made it . Through every moment of uncertainty and fear, through every day of loneliness and sadness, now you see...those days and moments don't last forever. And I am so proud of you. For staying strong when you felt the weakest. For not giving up, when you felt like there was no point in trying anymore. For continuing to love although you felt like your love was unwarranted. For being tireless in your efforts, when you felt like all your hard work was going unnoticed. For believing in you, even when all you could see in yourself was failure. In this moment, two days into the new year, I write this letter with sincere gratefulness. Grateful for both the successes and for the failures, especially th

If you’re scared to be cheated on, I’ve got some really bad news for you. ITS PROBABLY GOING TO HAPPEN REGARDLESS OF HOW MUCH YOU TRY TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM IT. Come on, its 2017, folks been cheating since the Garden of Eden ain't nothing about to change. There’s not one person I know, that hasn’t been cheated on or been the one to cheat. Think about it. How many of your friends, relatives have been a victim or been the one to step out? Exactly, this is such a common act its nearly unrealistic to think that it could never happen to you or that you would never commit such an act. The truth is evident- cheating is the norm nowadays. The worst part about it is that, as common as cheating has become no one is talking about it. Its always, if they cheat let them go. Once a cheater always a cheater. No one deserves to be cheated on.  Listen, dealing with cheating is not an easy matter whether you’re the one its happening to or the one that made the mistake. It really takes

Is i‎t easy to be faithful in a relationship? And like a church choir we all respond in unison and answer “Yes” to this question. Based on my Twitter poll and Facebook post it’s apparent that most people do in fact believe that it is easy to stay faithful in a committed relationship. When you look at the definition of faithful it means, loyal and constant, adhering firmly to and devotedly as to a person, cause or idea. And of course most people assume that faithfulness is to be set and established between both individuals at the start of the relationship. Wow, devoted, constant, loyal. Those words carry a lot of weight and meaning. With faithfulness being defined as such have you ever thought that maybe faithfulness of that degree is something that is established over a long period of time rather than immediately in affect at the time you and your partner decide to make it “official”? Think about the things you are now devoted to? Can you honestly say you were immediately loyal an

At some point in our lives, we’ve all stood in front of a mirror and wondered, contemplated and speculated. We stare at the mirror and pinch away at the fat. We lift our butt to see if it needs to sit higher, we readjust our boobs to create some sorta cleavage cause the bigger the better. Whether your goal was to gain your abs by the summer or to gain a few pounds so you could have a little booty back there . In this day and age we all are trying to figure out how to obtain that " ideal body ." I mean, it’s not easy out here to be content, with all the body images we see as we scroll through Twitter & Instagram. It always seems that what is ideal is the opposite of what we currently possess. I mean I cannot tell you how many images of Rihanna I have seen in the past month since she “gained a little extra.” (I myself, retweeted an image of her as well) But she’s been everywhere lately, for apparent reasons. She’s gotten thicker, everywhere. Now please understand majo

For the ones who can say, "middle school sucked"...this is for you. August 23, 2008. I couldn't fall asleep last night. For what seemed like an endless night, I laid there wide-eyed with tears slowly creeping down my cheeks, as countless thoughts kept my mind in a panic.  "What is wrong with me?" "Why do they look at me that way?" "Am I gonna force myself to go back there tomorrow?" I have been bullied since the day I began middle school, and I can dissect everything a dirty look has to say in merely 3 seconds. I have isolated myself from any and everyone, I have perfected the ability to be alone in a room full of people. I can fake a fever and upset stomach so well, even I have unintentionally convinced myself that I'm sick on some days. And since they pointed their finger at me and laughed, I have been trying to convince myself that, things will get better. Trying to convince myself that if I can just

A student athlete is a participant in an organized competitive sport sponsored by the educational institution in which he or she is enrolled. Student athletes must typically balance the roles of being a part time athlete, part time student, part time lover and full time stressed.  One thing I know for sure after my conversation with Tris & Kris is that, while the student-athlete may be contributing to the success of their universities sports teams on the field (or court), this individual is also taking some major L's off the field. "Balancing was the hardest part about being a student-athlete" said Tris, who attended the University of North Carolina during the time that the 2014 academic football scandal took place, "I had to prove myself academically to people as an athlete because of that situation." Which meant lots of her time being occupied with her books and being involved in as many credible academic organizations that she could bare.  &